When the Fertility clinic called.........
When the Fertility Clinic called……….
When the Fertility clinic called last week, I was surprised. Not that I don’t talk to clinics every day, but that it was a personal matter, that’s what shocked me.
It was a call from a Fertility clinic that I had been an egg donor at, just about three years ago. It seems that the clinic was setting up an embryo donor program, and that they had contacted the recipients, to see if they would be willing to donate their embryos. They said Yes, enough said…….or so I thought. Well, I thought wrong. This clinic not only had a policy of asking the Intended parents, but also any donors involved in creating the embryos.
As Jenn from the fertility clinic began telling me of the clinic’s policy, and how I would be able to provide an opinion as to where the embryos would go, I realized that the decision to donate was not a decision based on a six-week medical process as I had once thought, but more so a decision that would last for a lifetime. This donation was one of many that I’ve participated in, and was a wonderful, known experience. Being consulted on anything to do with the donation, post donation, was in my opinion a very sweet gesture by the Intended parents, and clinic.
It was funny though, I thought I’d have an opinion on who would receive the embryos, but I didn’t. I realized that I had said goodbye to the eggs at the time of retrieval, and that I was just happy that they weren’t going to be destroyed. Satisfied that someone else would have the opportunity to create their family, through the generosity of the recipient couple I had donated to.
I had never thought of myself as having a say, and even now a week after the clinic called to ask, I’m re evaluating the process of known donations, and even anonymous ones, as this call on a Thursday afternoon truly challenged my thinking as a Donor.
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Guest Blog post- How I shared the Pregnancy News with my Intended parents
The intended parents I was going to carry for had had their share of disappointments over the previous years. They had tried many different ways to have a baby, without success. As a gestational surrogate, I was their last hope.
After weeks of preparation, transfer day came and three beautiful embryos were placed in my womb, as we anxiously began the dreaded two-week wait. As hopeful as they were, IPs had gone through so many failures in the past that were very reluctant for me to use home pregnancy tests before our official blood test. They said they wanted to avoid another deception and preferred to wait for results from the lab.
But I had already bought a couple dozen pregnancy tests through a pharmaceutical supplier and intended to do some testing beforehand. I started testing four days after transfer, even though I knew it was still too early for a positive result. Ever day, I kept IPs informed of how I felt: tired, crampy, hungry… all normal side effects from the hormonal treatments, that couldn’t be trusted as pregnancy symptoms. On the morning of day 6 post-transfer, a miracle happened: as I stood on the bathroom counter and held the small test strip (ripped from it’s plastic casing) against the vanity light, I saw the faintest pink line appear. I yelled for my husband to come confirm my vision and he, too, saw the joyous second pink-line. I wanted to call my IPs so badly and share those oh-so-happy news with them, but I also wished to respect their desire to wait for official blood results. That afternoon, the intended mother called me to see how I was feeling and ask me what my plans were for the evening. I answered that I was going to the grocery store to stock up on soda crackers, so I would be ready in case I eventually got morning sickness. She giggled, but reminded me that she didn’t want to know…yet.
Day 13 came and I got the go from the fertility clinic to go get my blood drawn. As we anxiously waited for the results to come in, I emailed IPs the picture I had taken a few days ago. Minutes later, our beta results were in: 1113! IPs were ecstatic! There are no word to explain the pure joy we all felt at that moment. Beta numbers more than doubled over the next couple days and our 6-week ultrasound confirmed what we were suspecting (and hoping for): two strong heartbeats!
I delivered two healthy baby boys at 36 weeks and 2 days, finally making my IPs’ dream of having a family come true.