Why did you decided to be an egg donor?
One day I was going through some news articles when I came across one that was written about a couple who was having fertility issues. I immediately felt compassion for them, and couldn’t imagine what they were going through. I’ve grown up in an extremely large family who are all extremely close to one another. That’s when I began doing more research on the struggles that people go through with fertility, and created a desire in my life to give a gift of family to a couple who couldn’t achieve it on their own.
What was the experience like?
Surprising the experience came across as simple, quick and easy. I did a lot of research on different places to do an egg donation, when I came across Egg Helpers and immediately fell in love with the people I talked to and worked with through the process. They were so helpful, and answered questions I wasn’t even sure how to ask. They put you in the right direction, and made me feel confident and relaxed about the process. Another huge help for the entire experience was how supportive my family and friends were with my decision on helping a deserving couple receive the most beautiful and magical gift of all, a family.
How did you feel before going into the process?
Although Egg Helpers helped keep me relaxed and prepared me for the process, I was very nervous going into it, but also extremely excited to be able to help build a family. The biggest thing was that I was anonymous, I didn’t know who my eggs were going to, so being a curious mind, I wanted to know more about the intended parents, what they were like. However, it did make me feel better just thinking that I am giving a gift to them, and knowing that, is everything I need to fulfill myself and my desires.
How did you feel after?
After everything I was so grateful, and appreciative to have been given the opportunity to give a couple a family, because personally I know that the most amazing thing in the entire world is to have that bond. I am also extremely glad that I found a company who supported my passion and needs to help give this gift, and Egg Helpers was wonderful throughout the whole process.
What was your retrieval like?
My retrieval only took approximately 15 minutes, although it felt so much shorter. As mentioned I had a lot of support from my friends and family which meant the world to me. My mom actually came with me and held my hand during the process. Once it was done, my mom had given me the biggest most heartwarming hug, and that’s when I knew that giving the opportunity to allow another person to give their child a hug like that one day, was the most overwhelming emotionally beautiful moment of my life.
Choosing an Egg Donor
Choosing an egg donor may be one of the most difficult, but exciting choices that you ever make. With so many different factors to consider during the donor selection process, it is important to think about which qualities are most important to you. After 10 Years of working with Intended parents, and their Donors,we’ve put together our best advice to help you begin the donor search process.
Anonymous vs. Known Egg Donor
One of the first decisions you will have to make is if you want to work with a Known Egg Donor or an Anonymous Egg Donor. A Known donation is when the egg donor is known to you and agrees to direct contact. Some people prefer to use a known donor as it gives the child to form a relationship with their egg donor. Some drawbacks to this is that the legal guidelines for known donations are less clear. It can also be stressful defining a role for your egg donor in your child’s life. An anonymous egg donor is a donor found through a donor database. This donor does not reveal their identity or have any direct contact with the intended parents. The egg donation agency or fertility clinic serves as the point of contact. Using an anonymous donor clearly provides more confidentiality and a very clear relationship definition. At Egg Helpers, the majority of our matches are anonymous. But we have so many amazing egg donors who also want to complete a known donation. Whichever you decide, we will help guide you through the egg donor process.
One of the most important donor considerations for many couples or individuals, is physical characteristics. If your family members all have blue eyes, fair skin and light hair, then finding those qualities in a donor may be important. If appearance is not a major concern, your options will be much broader. We suggest our donors supply both current and childhood photos to help intended parents when physical appearance is important.
When reviewing donor profiles it is crucial to evaluate their medical history carefully. How does the donor’s medical history combine with your own family’s history? Certain factors in a donor’s medical history make some donors more compatible than others.
When you’re looking through donor profiles try to gain a sense of the donor’s personality. How the donor answers questions such as ‘What is your favorite sport?’ can give you more insight into her personality than whether or not she says soccer or lacrosse. We recommend choosing a donor that you can relate to or feel that you could be friends with.
Do Repeat Donors make more sense?
Repeat Donors are women who have gone through the egg donation process once or several times already. Working with a repeat donor can be reassuring for intended parents because the donor has already completed the process once before, truly understands what is involved, and responded well to the medication. Using a repeat donor over a first-time donor does not necessarily guarantee success, but it does offer some advantages.
Listen to that inner voice!
At Egg Helpers we have an extensive database filled with donors that want to help a loving couple or individual become parents. When looking at donor profile after profile, it can be easy to get caught up in finding someone that matches everything on your checklist. Try not to focus too much on one specific trait. Whether that includes height, eye color, ethnicity, university education, or additional characteristics. Parents who loosely follow their checklist and select a donor ‘that feels just right’ are typically the happiest in the long run. It is important to feel a connection to your donor!
How to Get Started
To start the donor selection process, contact us, for access to our egg donation database. An easy way to start your search is to find a group of donors that meet the physical characteristics of your family. Then candidates can be narrowed down by medical history, donor personality, location, proven donors or more. At the end of the day, everyone’s selection process is unique. There’s no right or wrong way to choose your donor! If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to contact us. We are happy to help!
Myths & Misconceptions | Egg Donation, what is it all about?
Egg Donation is such a beautiful gift. Without the empathy and generosity of egg donors, thousands of couples and individuals would be unable to become parents. Egg donors provide those who are unable to conceive on their own, as well as same-sex male couples, with a much needed egg that will help them have a baby.
Even though egg donation is becoming more common and educational resources about the process are easily available, there are many myths about egg donation that are still circulating. In order to help clear up any confusion about egg donation and what it entails, here are some common myths and misconceptions about the process.
Myth #1: Only women in their 40’s need donors.
Although the quality and quantity of a woman’s eggs do decrease as she ages, this is not the only reason why an egg donor may be needed. Infertility issues and other reproductive disorders can contribute to a couple’s or individuals need for a donated egg. For example, a condition known as premature ovarian failure (POF) may arise when a woman’s ovaries stop functioning normally before she is 40 years old. POF can be treated, however, if treatment is unsuccessful an egg donor will be needed. Additionally, same-sex male couples will require the help of an egg donor and a surrogate in order to have a child.
Myth #2: If you donate your eggs, you’ll run out of eggs and be unable to have children of your own.
Egg donors are fully able to donate a set number of their eggs without posing a risk to their own future family. When a woman is born she has a set number of eggs and loses these eggs gradually, simply as a natural consequence of aging. Donating eggs does not pose a risk to your chances of having a baby of your own when you are ready to do so. We suggest that those interested in becoming an egg donor, do their research on the process and it’s safety.
Myth 3: The process of egg donation is painful.
While an egg donor is taking the medications to prepare for a cycle, some women do suggest that they feel discomfort – although most suggest it is similar to the same bloating and unwell feelings they have during their period. During the procedure, egg donors are given a light IV sedation to help prevent any possible discomfort. The entire egg donation procedure is actually quite short and usually lasts only about 30 minutes. Additionally, to help ensure that all egg donors receive proper care, clinic staff will monitor the donor while she rests for an hour or two after the procedure.